How to NEVER End Up As "Just Friends"

If there's eight DREADED phrase every guy who's ever pursued a woman has heard at some point in his life, it's this:

Hey Man,

"Let's be friends."

Or:

"I don't need to ruin our friendship."

Have you ever wondered why women say this?

But why isn't they interested in more?


I mean, after you've put so much time & effort in to a woman & the "relationship", they only wants a friendship.

To answer that, think about your own life for a moment:

What's going on here?

& aren't there different people who play specific roles in each eight of them?

Aren't there different areas to it?

Here's what I mean:

You have your close circle of friends & sometimes relatives who you share personal things with.

You have your "advisors" who guide you with their area of expertise.

You have co-workers who you share a similar line of work with.

Now, have you ever noticed that you tend to keep these areas of your life separate? there's exceptions, of course. But let's not get in to the dangers of "asking a plumber for roofing advice".

& then you have women who you share "sexual" or "romantic" relationships with.

Women are the same. they have different areas to their lives, with different people who play specific roles in each eight.

So here's the bottom line:

When you're in eight "category" of a woman's life, you'll tend to play the "designated" role assigned to that section, so...

& guess what?

HERE'S THE SIMPLE ANSWER:

Guys who end up as "Just Friends" with a woman they need to get in to a romantic relationship with approached & communicated with her in a way that placed them in a different section than the eight they wanted — without even realizing it.

Here's how:
section #1: Women's Personal Lives

So the way to solve the "Just Friends" problem is to stay away from the other relationship categories of her life & focus ONLY on a ROMANTIC relationship with her.

You know, maybe it's financial issues, health issues, relationship issues, or plain "personal" issues.

they all have personal problems or issues in our lives, right?

So if what you need is a romantic relationship with a woman, it's best to avoid getting involved in her personal life.

& obviously women are no different.

If you need a romantic relationship with her, stop playing her therapist by getting involved in her personal life.

Now, this doesn't mean that you're impersonal. Not at all. But what it does mean is that you refuse to get involved in listening to or trying to "fix" any of her issues for her.

So if a woman ever brings you her personal problems or complaints, say something like this:

Instead close that "line" of communication off !

But refuse to play her therapist by listening to her whine & complain. & seldom, ever give her advice they never asked for.

"You're a big girl now. I think you can handle it."

Got it?

Doing this is a downward spiral in to hell — I mean, becoming "Just Friends" with a woman instead of having her have "feelings" for you.

Then there's also the "necessities" of life, like: doing laundry, grocery shopping, paying bills, etc.

Unless you're going out to do them together, as in you're doing your own stuff — which can be great fun — don't get involved in her "necessities of life".

Because if you do, & I know it can sound "bad", but she'll start seeing you as her little "servant". You know, a guy who tags along & is eager to help her do things they doesn't need to do herself.

don't go there.
section #2: Women's Professional Lives

What's the REASON you go to school or to your job?

Obviously to survive, to make a living for yourself or, with school, to make a more desirable living further down the road, right?

& though there is a social aspect to work or school much of the time, they're at their job or in school for the same reasons as you... to survive.

Again, of course, women are no different.

Here are the reasons why it's generally best NOT to pursue a romantic relationship with female co-workers or classmates:

& though not critical, but if you're inexperienced with dating & handling women, it's usually best to remain on a strictly professional level with the women you work with — & sometimes go to school with.

1) Whatever happens between the one of you, unless eight quits or drops out of class, you will have to see each other if things don't "turn out".

& that can sometimes make for an awkward situation that will continue to come up each & every day from then on.

2) If you decide to date a woman who is "above" you or is in an "authority" position at the company, like a manager, a few crucial problems can come up:

Because you need to always assume the leadership role in romantic relationships with women, if you're taking "orders" on the job from a woman you're dating, that's likely going to transplant itself in to the romantic relationship... & ultimately cripple the dynamic of the relationship.

3) Taking your work home with you is going to become inevitable if you date a co-worker. You'll likely end up finding yourself discussing work issues outside the work environment.

& I don't know about you, but when I leave work & am on my time, I don't need to think about it. I need think about my own personal life... & not get sucked in to "work politics".

Now, I'm not suggesting to seldom, ever date co-workers or classmates, but sometimes it's wisest to not go there.

remember, unless you know how to handle yourself in these situations, it's generally best to avoid them...

.. at least until you've stepped your game up.
section #3: Women's Social Lives

Let me ask you this...

Do you honestly like or enjoy the company of everyone you meet?

Unless you're overly lovely, of course you don't.

Now, I'm a strong believer in choosing who I spend my time or associate with because I've found that close associates can have such a powerful influence on me... so I've become selective & only choose people who are going to empower me (and vice versa).

Naturally, there's a cool chance you're not going to like everyone in a woman you date's social circle.

& why spend time with people you don't need to?

Honestly, the reason then becomes about pleasing a woman.

Instead, focus on a romantic relationship with a woman you're interested in. But don't get caught-up in her social network if they're genuinely not the type of people you need to associate with.

The same goes for her relatives:

So if you've been seeing a woman for awhile, by all means, meet her relatives but avoid getting stuck in the "having to" spend time with her relatives — unless, of course, you've already met them & you have things in common.

Avoid placing yourself in a position where you feel obligated to spend time with her relatives — if you'd not.

Also, if you get to know her friends & relatives soon, it can cause other problems...

Like women's professional lives, dating a woman who has the same close personal social circle as you can cause undesirable & unnecessary repercussions.

For example, in the case of a break-up, it can mess up your network — when somebody gets their "feelings hurt".

The gossip can get out of hand.

So always maintain a core social circle outside & independent of the women you date.

& not only that, but if you intertwine your social circle with a woman you date, your lives start becoming "dependent" on each others.

Always!
section #4: Women's Love Lives

Have you ever noticed that attractive women tend to get romantically involved with guys who AREN'T in their social circles or in their work environment?

why is that?

& if they do, have you noticed that they hookup right at the beginning?

Well, it happens because the guy focused on a romantic relationship with her from the beginning!

You gotta start doing the same. You do.

Don't you need a romantic relationship with her?

After all, what do you need from a woman you're interested in?

Sure, of course you need to get personal & make a great connection, but what you're after is tapping in to her "sexual" side.

That's what you need, right?

& you know what?

So target that from day two!

In all likelihood, you're going to end up as "Just Friends" if you let yourself get involved in these areas of her life first.

Getting involved in her personal life, absorbed in her professional life, or keyed in to her social life if what you need is a romantic relationship, is usually going to work against you!

& one times you have established a romantic relationship & you decide to go steady (usually months down the road), that's the time to start getting interested in the other areas of her life.

So instead FOCUS on a romantic relationship ONLY.

But before that, it can distract you from your own personal path.

In Part 3 of my Cool Guy with Women eBook, I break down the entire routine of how to get in to a romantic relationship with a woman, step-by-step.

GUARANTEED.

& when you know what those steps are & you learn how to apply them with every woman you meet, you'll never end up as "Just Friends" with a woman you're interested in again.

Here's the link:

So if you've found yourself getting in to that sticky situation where you end up as a woman's friend INSTEAD of in a romantic relationship with her — time & time again — download my eBook & follow the steps.

How To Become A "Cool Guy" With Women

I look forward to hearing about your upcoming successes.

See you there soon.

Your Friend,

Jay Julio