How To "Read" A Woman's Words And Body Language

WHAT WOMEN "REALLY MEAN"...

I hope you're sitting down... because what I'm
about to share with you will change how you view
women and dating.

I'm about to take you "behind the scenes" in
the female mind.

I'm going to give you a perspective that most
men never see or realize.

Unfortunately for most guys, not seeing things
the way I'm about to share with you, keeps them
trapped in their own little world of failure.

If you pay careful attention to the things I'm
about to reveal to you, you'll definitely have
more success with women.


THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN WORDS AND THE REAL
WORLD...

Have you ever heard a woman say something like:

"I want a guy who is sensitive."

"I want a guy who's in touch with his feelings."

"I want a guy who's a good communicator."

"I want a guy who is strong."

"I want a guy who is sexy."

...?

Of course you have.

Women say this stuff all the time.

One of my favorites is:

"I want a REAL MAN."

I love that one.

In the past, when I'd hear women say, "I want a
REAL MAN", I had NO IDEA what the hell they were
talking about.

It almost didn't make sense.

But keep in mind, even though these things
don't always make sense to us guys, they make
PERFECT sense to women.

Here's the problem...

When a woman says one of these things, she
actually MEANS something that is different from
what a guy would mean if he said the same words.

Let me explain.

If a guy says "I'm going to stay home and relax
today", he probably means that he's going to stay
home, watch some sports, drink a beer, look at
pictures of women on the internet, and order a
pizza.

If a WOMAN says that she's going to stay home
and relax, she's probably NOT going to watch some
sports, drink a beer, look at pictures of women on
the internet, and order a pizza.

IMPORTANT NOTICE: If you are reading this right
now and you are a woman who watches sports, drinks
beer, looks at pictures of the women on the
internet, and orders pizza to relax, then contact
me immediately at the email address below. And
send pictures.

Back to what I was saying...

Women are DIFFERENT from men. And the words
they use often don't mean what they SOUND like
they mean.

So, the FIRST thing that you have to get
through your head is that just because a woman
SAYS something to you, doesn't mean that it means
what you THINK it means.

Catch my meaning?


THE BIG SECRET SHE ISN'T TELLING YOU

There's a little secret that women never happen
to mention when they're describing what they want
in a man.

Unfortunately, for all of us good guys who are
trying to be what women want... and hoping that if
we try hard enough to please women that they'll
like us... this little secret is causing us a LOT
of trouble.

The SECRET is that women ONLY want the things
that they're asking for from a guy who already has
about 100 other qualities that they never mention.

In other words, if a woman says, "I want a man
who is a good communicator", what she REALLY means
is:

"I want a guy who already has his life together,
is interesting, unpredictable, dominant, funny,
healthy, charismatic, confident, and loyal... who
is ALSO a good communicator."

The REALITY is that when a woman says one of
these "I want a guy who" statements, she actually
has an IDEAL guy in mind, who ALSO happens to be a
good communicator.

She's NOT imagining Homer Simpson sitting on
his couch reading a book on communication.

The reality of this situation is that what
women REALLY want is a man who makes them feel the
emotional and physical response that I like to
call ATTRACTION.

They want a man who makes them FEEL IT.

But, most women either can't describe the
things that actually make her feel ATTRACTION, or
they don't WANT to have to describe them, because
they want a man who already IS those things...
without having to learn them.

Think about it.

If you were hiring a bodyguard, would you want
one that said, "Yeah, I can be a bodyguard. Just
give me some time to learn..." or would you want
one that already KNEW how to kick ass anytime,
anywhere, without having to learn?

Duh.

Well, the same goes with women.

They don't WANT a guy that they have to train.

If you don't already have the UNIVERSAL
FOUNDATION of what appeals to women, then no
amount of changing and improving things, like your
communication and sensitivity, is going to help
you.


WHAT IS A REAL MAN?

Lately I've been thinking a lot about the idea
of a "Real Man."

You hear both women and men using the term.

But what does it actually MEAN?

And is it important?

Well, after thinking about this particular
topic for a long time, I've come to the conclusion
that it is a VERY important topic.

At this point, I believe that a REAL MAN is
this "ideal" that women imagine when they're
saying "I want a guy who is sensitive."

They're thinking of the REAL MAN, and then
they're imagining him ALSO being sensitive.

There are a lot of aspects to this REAL MAN.

Here are a few that are important:

-Status
-Lack of Insecurities
-Standards
-Experience
-Humor
-Unpredictability
-Leadership
-A Challenge

...and the list goes on.

It's actually not easy to describe a REAL MAN
in a few sentences... but I'll tell you what... a
woman can recognize one INSTANTLY.

Before I tell you more... If you don't know
what a "Real Man" is, and you also get the feeling
that you might NOT be one, then you need to do
yourself a BIG favor and go read this right NOW:

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/OnBeingAMan


THE MISTAKE MEN MAKE

Now, a common mistake that men make is taking
something that a woman SAYS that she wants, and
doing it TOO MUCH, thinking that if "A little bit
is good, then more must be better."

For instance, a woman SAYS that she likes guys
who are "thoughtful." So you go out and buy her a
bunch of gifts, give her cute cards every time you
see her, and call her all the time to tell her
that you miss her.

What happens?

She leaves you for her jerk ex-boyfriend.

Huh?

This would be kind of like a woman saying, "My
favorite food is chocolate" and then you thinking
it would be good to feed her chocolate for every
meal just because it's her favorite... or adding
chocolate to every single dish you make for her
from now on... and forgetting that 97% of what
she eats still needs to be OTHER FOODS.

Let me land the plane for you.

Women don't MEAN what you THINK they mean when
they talk about what they want in a man.

And if you take the things women say too
literally, you're going to wind up shooting
yourself in the foot.


WHAT WOMEN REALLY MEAN...

So let me "decode" what women "really" mean
when they say common things.

Consider this your own personal "female
language translator". Refer to it often.

WHEN A WOMAN SAYS...

"I want a guy who is sensitive."

WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS...

"I want a guy who is busy doing his own thing in
life, who has goals and objectives... who has
passion for things. If we're out together, he
always keeps me on my toes, and I'm always
wondering what's going to happen next. He's
challenging, interesting, and funny. I would
really like it if he was also sensitive enough to
know when I need a hug, or to be held, or when I
want him to make love to me."

Does this make sense?

Again, she's not imagining a picture of a
boring, predictable, Wussy who is sharing his hurt
feelings because he's so "sensitive."

Big difference.

WHEN A WOMAN SAYS...

"I want a guy who is in touch with his
feelings."

WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS...

"I want a guy who is strong-willed, and who
doesn't get upset about petty things... a guy who
can deal with the fact that I freak out
emotionally sometimes... and who knows how to be
cool when things are tough. But I also want him
to be in touch with his feelings so that:
1) He doesn't repress his emotions and then
eventually kill 10 people in his workplace, and
2) When he's intimate with me, and he feels a
passionate rush... he'll grab me and make love to
me like a beast!"

What she's NOT doing is making a picture of a
meek, afraid guy who calls all the time to ask "Do
you like me? Because I sure like you".

WHEN A WOMAN SAYS:

"I want a guy who's a good communicator."

WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS...

"I want a guy who doesn't talk all the time,
because he knows how to let me know what's on his
mind without using words. I want the kind of guy
that can touch me in a certain way and I feel
tingles all over my body. And I want the kind of
guy that can say things in a way that I
understand... not crudely and man-like."


WHAT ABOUT "SEXY"?

You'll often hear women saying that they what a
"Sexy Man."

Now, I USED to think that they meant that they
wanted a PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE man when they said
this.

Sometimes this is exactly what they mean when
they use the term "sexy." But I've found that,
most of the time, women mean something TOTALLY
different when they use the term "sexy."

You see, a woman generally bases more of her
life around what she FEELS than a man does.

And the concept of "sexy" is usually used to
describe the way a man makes a woman FEEL than it
is used to describe how HE LOOKS.

Think about women's romance novels for a
moment. Women's romance novels account for about a
fifth of ALL BOOKS SOLD.

What do these books contain?

WORDS.

Words that DESCRIBE things.

Descriptions that make women FEEL things.

My point: If you want to learn how to be a
"sexy man", then the way you LOOK isn't the most
IMPORTANT thing.

I'll tell you something -

Learning the secrets of being a "sexy man" can
be a very rewarding experience.

A lot of guys out there, including me, know
EXACTLY what it's like to be either on a date
with, or in a relationship with a woman who has NO
INTENTION of being with you "physically."

In other words, she's just not feeling that
powerful "sexual" ATTRACTION for you.

And you don't know how to MAKE her feel it.

Well, let me tell you...

Just like all the other things that a woman
"says" that she wants in a man... that most men
don't ever "get", being SEXY is one of the BIG
ONES.

If you understand the secrets of being SEXY,
you will notice that women start to behave VERY
differently around you.

Are You Afraid of Rejection, or Acceptance?

Think about it...when you DON'T engage with a woman, you're safe. You haven't put any of yourself out there. You haven't taken any risk or made any commitment of your time.

You're not afraid of rejection. Rejection is safe.

Suppose you DO roll up on a girl & he shuts you down cold. Again, you haven't made any commitment of your time besides the little you already spent. You're essentially back to where you started with the ladies, & the risk you've taken has been minimal. You haven't given her any opportunity to really judge you. You haven't let her get close to affect your feelings. Essentially, rejection is a NEAR-ZERO RISK situation.

No...what you're afraid of is ACCEPTANCE.

You're not worrying, "Oh my God, what if he turns me down?" That would be the easiest way out of the situation you're putting yourself in to. What you're saying to yourself is, "Oh my God, what if he says YES?"

If he gives you her number or agrees to a date, then all of a sudden you have a RESPONSIBILITY. You're committed to furthering the sarge. You're forced to expose more of yourself as you spend more time with this girl. Suddenly, what you do takes on a whole new level of importance!

- If you spend time with her, you'll have to spend time with all her friends, who will ALSO judge you.

The worst of you with women have never even BEEN at this level before. The rest have been exposed to it at some level, but this "performance anxiety" is what REALLY stresses you out.

- You'll actually have to find creative ways to spend your time, now that you're with her, because before, lying on your couch, you only disappointed yourself.

- If he accepts you, then you'll have to set aside time you were using for something else, or saving for God knows what, to spend with HER.

reckon of all the responsibility!! So much easier to...

- You'll have to become educated, learn to dress nice, make the money to keep step with everything you want to do, learn to socialize with other human beings, & learn to have FUN at the same time!

That's right...the reason a lot of you get rejected with women is because you SABOTAGE your own approach. Sure, you'll go up & run your so-called "Game", but that voice inside of you that fears all this initiation will keep telling you, "If he accepts you, you're more screwed than you were before!" That will leak out in your mannerisms, in your nervous habits, in your awkward speech.

...SABOTAGE THE APPROACH!!

When you go to pick up a woman, you're not picking HER up. She's not livestock. You pick up a whole EXPERIENCE. You pick up a lifestyle adapt, EVEN if you're only with that girl long to get laid, EVEN if there's no relationship involved.

he will see this & HONOR YOUR REQUEST for rejection.

So the first thing you want to do...is decide whether you really want to have a go with women. It's not something you can do halfway, or they will reject you every single time. You either want women in your life YES, or you want women in your life NO.

Women aren't a commodity, they're an experience. What pushes you outside your comfort zone isn't expressing interest in the product, it's completing the transaction. It's COMMITTING to whatever the experience brings.

Like getting on a roller coaster, you can pretend that you're afraid you won't be THIS TALL to ride, but your real fear is that you WILL be, & five time that lap-bar comes down, you're committed to whatever comes next for at least the next several minutes.

and if you DO want them, then that doesn't mean you can approach, get digits, & then have booty on-tap like running water. It means you're going to be taken on a bit of a ride.

30 Quick Dating Tips

1 It's supposed to be fun. You can't & won't win em all. Get something out of every interaction you have with a woman. Learn something. Entertain yourself with her.

Over the past few years, in actively & consciously trying to meet women, I have learned a few things. a quantity of these came as enlightening epiphanies, some came with groans & slaps to the forehead, but they all came with experience.

2 Be willing to change, but only for yourself.

3 It is a numbers game. Play the numbers, roll with the punches. It's a roller coaster, ups & downs, infant. "When you're up, it's seldom as nice as it seems & when you're down it seems like you'll seldom get up again." You will.

4 In general, it is bad form to apologize. For anything. You can admit you were wrong, you can offer to make things right, but don't apologize.

5 "Good things come to those that wait". Not this time. nice things come to those that act. The 3-second rule works on lots of levels.

6 Do not ask permission to do or say anything. seldom ask a woman if you can kiss them, hug them, hold them, etc.

7 there is no such thing as overconfidence. there is such a thing as taking yourself seriously, however.

8 Agreeable is boring.

9 Jealousy is a "let's be friends" best friend.

10 seldom ask questions that are designed to find out what she thinks of you.

11 Humor covers a multitude of sins. Laughing is an aphrodisiac. Learn to be funny. Listen to comedy albums. George Carlin, Eddie Murphy, Chris Rock.

12 Nobody likes a complainer. Unless he's funny.

13 Role reversal is great fun, & it works. Act like she is trying to get in to your pants. Play hard to get. Fight fire with fire.

14 A fireplace is a worthwhile investment.

15 A drop of vanilla extract in your bottle of cologne. one spray on your throat, one on your chest, & a little behind your ears.

16 You must lead. Even if you don't know where you're going. Make it an adventure. Take her hand & lead.

17 The only thing that matters with a woman is now. What she thought of you 10 minutes ago is probably different from what she thinks of you now & what she might think of you 10 minutes from now. So don't worry about what she thinks of you.

18 Life isn't fair & dating is a part of life. Dating, dealing with women, isn't & isn't supposed to be fair. Get over it.

19 Touch her first, immediately, briefly. Let the kino progress naturally. Don't force it.

20 Women love dogs.

21 there is no such thing as playing out of your league. Everyone is in the same league. There may be all-stars & scrubs, but even all-stars lose & even scrubs can become all-stars with practice.

22 Take periodic breaks from the game. Focus on your other interests. Get your life straightened out. Do something else, then come back.

23 Get her to call you, do you favors, adjust her schedule for you, etc.

24 If you plan to get serious with a woman, there are a few things you should take in to account. First, she will turn in to her sister. Second, she will turn in to her sister.

25 The difference between being congruent & sending mixed signals: Being congruent has to do with who you are. Sending mixed signals is about how you feel about her.

26 nice dancers are nice in bed.

27 A woman will check you & keep on testing you. Don't get comfortable. Stay on your toes.

28 Don't let flirting drag on. Stop while it's still fun. Close, or leave & come back.

29 nice kissers are nice in bed.

30 Women like sex as much as they do. they like to talk about it as much as they do , maybe even more. But not in the same way.

The Perfect Place to Meet Women

I am a personal trainer at an average gym, and I tell you that place is a gold mine.

three query that all of us are or should be asking, is where we can go to meet women. After all, what lovely is all of the advice that you read here if you don't utilize any of it.

Now a lot of guys may not agree because we spend the majority of our time in the weight room working on bench press, squats, you know "guy exercises."

Well at my gym we have an aerobics room that offers free classes on a regular basis. Abs only, aerobics, spin, you know "girl exercises." and whenever I look in while there's a class in session the ratio of women to men is about 20 to 1.

It's the perfect environment. i have seldom seen a place where the average girl was so hot with an almost complete lack of other men.

Seriously, i have seen some average guys meet supermodel drop dead beautiful women in there. You know all the girls are in shape because those classes aren't easy, and we aren't exactly wearing a lot of clothes while they're sweating.

Go check it out. Worst thing that can happen is you get in shape.

Making a Change and Sticking With It

When you decide that you require to change your dead-end life around in to something a little more promising, it won't happen overnight.

Making a Change and Sticking With It

I can't stress this , because I fell in to this trap a while back. twice you are progressing towards where you require to be, this does NOT mean you can ease up and expect to coast the rest of the way. If you ease up for too long, you're going to regress backwards, and it ain't .

Sorry to break it to you, but you're going to have to work for it. You can't say, "Damn, I gotta make some changes", and then expect things to take care of themselves. you have to take an ACTIVE role in this!

A fitting analogy is weight loss — have you noticed how plenty of people make a New Year's resolution to lose weight in the new year, and we hit the gym in January, lose 5 pounds, and then slack off and end up gaining 10 pounds? The same thing applies to changing your life — if you stop putting effort in to it, you won't get anything out of it.

To make a solid change in your life, you need to have the motivation and commitment to stick with it and follow it through to the end.

Another analogy: Let's say that you have an automobile, and you're driving on the uphill 'road of self-improvement'. The fuel for this automobile is EFFORT. If you don't put in the effort, do NOT expect that automobile to go up the hill — it will roll backwards down the hill. The only way to keep that automobile going over the hill is to give it a steady fuel supply of EFFORT.

twice you see changes occurring in your life, that's great — step back for a moment, be proud of yourself, take a deep breath — and then get back at it, because you will get benefits equal to the effort you put in to it.

If you are going to make a change in your life, you need to have that fire within you — you need to be able to COMMIT to following this change through to the end. You need to have the motivation and will to put that effort in for an extended period of time.

I see a lot of people asking about why we have relapsed in to their AFC tendencies from their elderly days, or why we can't shake certain habits that are holding them back. In order to keep from going backwards or idling in life, you need to keep going FORWARDS.

It doesn't matter how much you read here if you don't require to make the effort of implementing the knowledge in your everyday life! It's pointless — you're wasting your time reading these articles and posts if you don't intend to get out there and MAKE SOMETHING HAPPEN!

Always keep moving in a positive direction. By all means, stop to enjoy the scenery — but don't you dare forget that you have a location and that you WILL reach that objective. REFUSE to let yourself down.

All the great athletes never got to be such dominating forces in their sports without practicing. You need to practice yourself silly and be able to overcome the small setbacks and obstacles in order to succeed. When you wake up in the morning, we recommit ourselves to making that day the ABSOLUTE BEST DAY that we possibly can — and then the next day we try to do that again, and again.

Guys, I can't stress this . You will only get as much out of your life as you put in to it. Put the most in to improving yourself as you can, and watch your life improve. Stick WITH that effort, and ANYTHING is possible.